Time, space, and energy are funny.

What I’ve been seeing a lot this past month is people “getting ahead of themselves.” Meaning, energetically, decisions have been made, however, the mind, and body have yet to follow. During a reading, where my readee is energetically (whether already broken up with their partner, quit their job, moved to a new home, etc.) is so very clear to me. Like it’s already in the past! However, on account of all of our social programming, obligations, guilt, and all other factors that come into decision making, I’ll be in the middle of a session with someone who is asking me what to do with their current situation – like as though they haven’t yet made a decision. What is the best option? What would most benefit them? And here I am seeing what I’m seeing, thinking, “Well, the decision has already been made.”

When we invest time in outlets/resources/people, we tend to trust them. There is a sense of knowingness and security that comes with invested time. Time invested in friends, romantic partners, a home, a job, a hobby, anything. Time invested without rejection takes on a role of trust, security and comfort. Thus, when choosing between this comforting, secure option that you’ve known as a friend (be it in your best interest or not) and the opposition, which is new and unknown in shape and form, the decision may seem difficult and scary. Let us name this investment of time a habit.

So, we all know how easy habits are to form and how hard they are to break. We all know that they are just a cycle or a pattern repeating itself. Nothing new. Always predictable. As discussed, it is the predictability that makes them comforting and trustworthy. However, as we grow into our new selves, as we learn from our life experiences and integrate the wisdom, as we integrate knowledge from the outside world and from the world within, there are times when the old no longer serves us. So, it’s out with the old and in with the new.
This tends to be easier done on the energetic level then the mental and physical level. And this is when people come to me asking which decision to make.

I observe people playing out the same old habits until they can no longer “stomach” them. For whatever reason, it appears as though we all seem drawn to the old go-to, drawn to our comforting, secure, trustworthy habits when feeling especially fearful. Yet, when we can tolerate no more of being out of alignment with ourselves, when we continually choose the habit over new option, we tend to feel nauseous, ill, fatigued, disappointed, emotional, foggy, or simply yucky. I view strong emotions and physiological sensations as our way of communicating with ourselves. It is our intuition, our energy-self, communicating with the mind and body. When this sensation becomes overwhelming is when most of us come into alignment with ourselves. This is when we choose the new option mentally and physically, as it becomes nearly impossible not to. It is the transition that I heal when in readings where “the decision has already been made.”

An example of this is a client who came to me with regards to her relationship. She kept asking what to do. Should she break up or not? I replied, “The decision has already been made.” Yet, she kept asking the same question, as she was in search of another answer. Sure enough, after some time she ended her relationship. Because it had already been processed energetically, and in this case emotionally, after the break-up the client was great! She had been grieving the relationship while still (physically) in it. When it was over she looked lighter and brighter than ever! She moved into complete alignment with herself - mind, body, spirit.

Has this ever happened to you? I was initially exposed to acupuncture as a pre-dental student. I was fascinated by it! It was all I had ever fantasized about and more. My heart knew this was my path. Every cell in my body new this was my path. However, I kept ignoring the overwhelming feeling of bliss I experienced every time I even thought of acupuncture. I kept ignoring the nausea I felt every time I imagined myself a dentist. It took my mind 3 years to catch up with my spirit. Looking back, it’s laughable to me that I ever considered dentistry.

Gut feelings, in contrast with our so very brilliant minds, are seldom deceiving!