The two most common things I am seeing people feel guilty about is their relationships with other people and feeling great.

Let’s first address the latter- feeling great. Um, how did we get here, where it’s not okay to be amazing? Huh? Why is feeling great causing so much guilt these days? WTF? Oh, money comes to you easily? Great! Let’s celebrate! You are 100% completely healthy? Whoo-hoo!! You feel beyond lucky? This is fantastic, yes?! No, you’d rather feel bad for all of everyone that is struggling or seemingly less fortunate than you? Now, how is that gonna help anyone out? So now you’re not enjoying your wealth, health, or whatevs and everyone else is still struggling. Rather than go down with them, wouldn’t you rather bring them up with you? Share the wealth. Love and joy are abundant in nature, not limited! Share your secrets to success and happiness. This way, we all shine! No need to feel as guilty and as isolated by your guilt for being as wonderful as you are! Reminds me of a very favorite Mariann Williamson quote. . .

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? . . . Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. . . . It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

The people that I read in July who felt guilty with regards to their relationships were beautiful, wonderful people!! So wonderful and kind-hearted, that they felt responsible for the emotions of others. We are all so different. We each have our own personal filters and whatever-colored glasses that we wear. What we see or receive is up to us entirely and has less to do with what our friends are giving us and more to do with how we process what our friends are giving us. Perspective, right?

Like, I could give Jane an apple and she’ll be like, “Ooh, thank you, friend! Thank you for feeding and nourishing me!” When I give Bob an apple, on the other hand, he’s like, “Are you suggesting I’m starving? Like I can’t feed myself? I’m mad at you!” And then, Mary’s all like, “Apples are sugar and sugar is bad. Why do you hate me?” Same action. Different reactions. If I were to feel guilty for either one of these reactions, that’d be like saying I created that reaction. I did not. They did. Who we are genetically or constitutionally, and what life experiences we’ve had is what influences our perspective. (Which is always changing as we grow and evolve.)

To me guilt is disempowering. It’s like denying another person’s perspective. Like taking full responsibility for their reaction. So Bob feels insulted by my apple. If I feel guilty about this, this implies I did something “wrong.” It implies, also, that poor little Bob doesn’t know any better and can’t possibly change, so I must change and accommodate him. When we take responsibility for others, we are enabling dis-serving thoughts, beliefs, or actions. When I don’t feel guilty, I can laugh and say, “Bob! Really?! I love you! This apple looks like heaven to me and I love you so much I wanted to share my heaven with you!” Bob can then do whatever he wants with this information. It’s his choice! He gets to feel empowered by having a say in the matter! But by giving in to his reaction, or even anticipating his reaction, denies him such empowerment. To me, it suggests that he is small and limited. And coming from guilt space can only makes us smaller and more limited. Let’s expand, people!! Let go the guilt and gift empowerment!!!

Visualization Tool:
Because I saw most guilt being related to others, I feel a “separation tool,” may be a nice way to help prevent some of this. A separation tool can be a visual tool of your choice that you place about 2 feet in front of you at the edge of your aura. It will absorb the energy of others so you don’t. This way, you need not feel responsible for the way other people feel or react. It also helps keep your energy in your space, so you may act in integrity with yourself and not worry as much about how people react to what is your pure, benevolent intention.

Imagine a tool of your choice. I see a lot of shields when leading this meditation in class. I like to use a huge teddy bear, myself. Whatever object you’d like to use, try to envision your personal separation tool in as much detail as possible. Really see it and believe that it is there, 2 feet in front of you, working for you. Trust that your tool is working for you and see if you notice a difference in your day. You may want to create a new separation tool each day or with different moments or people, as they tend to collect energy and work less efficiently with time. When creating a new separation tool, be certain to discard your old one. Simply watch it disappear completely so no traces of it exist. You may erase it, burn it, blow it up, or just watch it fade into nothing.

Intuitive Acupuncture Point:

WaiGuan, Outer Pass, San Jiao 5.

If you are looking at the back of your hand, with your finger nails facing you, WaiGuan, is about 2 inches from your wrist up towards your elbow. 1/6th the length up from wrist to elbow right in the middle of the width of your forearm.

To me, this point is like a separation tool. It’s name, “Outer Pass” has also been translated as “Outer Gate.” I’ve heard it described as the outside gate of your heart. Boundaries! This point is all about your connection with other people. I believe strengthening this point will help prevent that sense of responsibility for other people’s emotions that generates guilt.

Massage it, kiss it, love it. Touch it while visualizing your separation tool. Place pressure on this point for a few minutes. Use this acupuncture point to help strengthen your “outer pass” and alleviate feelings of guilt!

*Disclaimer* This message was generated from my July 2010 readings. I do not have asshole clients. I only have wonderful clients that are at times compassionate to a fault. If your intentions are benevolent and you feel guilt, this message will apply to you. If your intentions are not benevolent this message does not apply to you. I am in no way endorsing selfish behavior at the cost of others in the name of personal responsibility and empowerment.

I read a lot of seemingly confused people in June.  People uncertain of their path or whether or not they were following it.  I’d look into their space and definitely feel the frustration or fluster, however, to me everything looked great!  Everyone’s all shiny and bright! Yeah!  All in alignment with themselves and their values! Yeah! So wait, why all the confusion and uncertainty? 

Values. And awareness. Do you know what your values are?  When we are aware of our own personal values it is much easier to distinguish between whether or not we are in alignment with them. Makes sense, no?

Example: Chocolate! I know I love/value chocolate. This awareness alone creates a more mindful experience for me every time I eat chocolate. I eat chocolate and I’m both subconsciously and consciously like, “Yesssss!!!! This is goooood!” If I ate chocolate without that awareness, there would be a disconnect in the “Yessss!!!!” part of this experience. I’d still be eating chocolate, thereby clearly displaying that I subconsciously love it and energetically declaring “I love and value chocolate.” Yet, if I never bring my conscious mind into it, I’m not as engaged in the experience and thus it may feel unfulfilling, bland, conflicting or confusing. I’d be like, “Mmmmm, chocolate is tasty. If only it made me skinny. I need a new couch. Should I stay here or move? Urgh, this chocolate is so yum I just want more. Gotta brush my teeth. . . .” Do you get it? I’d be eating the chocolate and not realizing the depth of why I am eating it. Just going through the motions, maybe tapping into the experience here and there. My mind wanders or creates conflict and I may be left feeling unsatisfied or conflicted with the chocolate experience.

When there is lack of awareness or consciousness, then we may be acting in alignment with our values and not even realize it.  We may be doing all of everything that is important to us (eating chocolate!) and perhaps forget that these things are even important to us. C’mon, your actions originated somewhere! You! You made them up! Maybe at a time you felt it necessary to? Was there a turning point in your life? Or is it just that back in the day, you actually had time to sit and reflect? Then, fast forward five years and you’re still living your values but if feels more out of habit now (like you’re going through the motions), or you’ve forgotten why. Lack of awareness of our values = lack of acknowledgment of our alignment with self.

While in the reading space, I did not see the confusion as being a reflection of my clients’ paths or their personal integrity. For the most part, the confusion was about awareness, recognition, and acknowledgement.  Most of you are exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you desire doing.  So much so, that it’s become more of a habit than a conviction.

Bringing us to the concept of ease. So, challenging moments in life can be cool because they inspire awareness. You know, like being in a relationship that just feels gross. Yuck, right? But then afterwards, we realize, “Hmm, if I hated that, then I must love and value this.” Learning through opposition. And now here you are, in the relationship of your dreams and it’s easy! And you’re asking me, “Hey, am I lost?”  And I’m like, “Wait, isn’t this what you’ve always wanted? You did ask for exactly this a while back, yes?”

To me, when our values become habit and lifestyle, it is a beautiful thing! Yet, in this culture, we are not always taught to trust such beauty, ease, or comfort.  When was the last time you heard, “Life is easy,” or “Trust the good?” Ok, what about these: “Gotta work hard to play hard. Hope for the best and expect the worst.” My impression is that we are taught to believe life is hard.  Like experiencing difficulty validates our existence. Like, challenge = real and ease = fake. Or challenge = permanent, ease = fleeting. In actuality, ease is a reflection of us being in alignment with ourselves- not the opposite. Can you think of any of your life examples that reflect this?

Hey, let’s start trusting the ease! Let’s rewire ourselves so that ease = permanent and REAL. Cuz it is! Trust the ease and the ease will grow.

So, what are your values?  Are you living in alignment with them?  Try making a list of all your values.  They can be anything you want them to be!  They are yours, all yours!  Anywhere from health or wealth to chocolate and glitter.  Make your list, then prioritize your values.  What do you value most, exactly?  So, you got your list of prioritized values, yeah?  Carry them with you.  Put them in your phone if you need to.  Next time you’re feeling a little off, check in with yourself.  Look at your list and see if you are acting in alignment with your values.  Most of you appeared to be acting in alignment with at least your two top values.  If you look at your list and you are acting in alignment with your values, enjoy!  What are you so worried about?  Yes, life can be this easy! If your actions are not reflecting your values, congratulate yourself on becoming aware of this!  It is from this awareness, you can make a conscious decision and start intentfully living and creating your life. Again, easy!

After prioritizing my list, I’ve realized my top two values are love and connection. The rest of my list seems to reflect love or connection in some way to me. For example, to me health is a reflection of self-love and creates space for connection. Or, I love and value travel because it creates connection in my life. So, to check in with myself, all I have to do is ask, “Hey, Degs, you loving and connecting right now?” Easy! Ooh, how I love awareness and living a conscious life! So empowering!

Intuitive Acupuncture Point: Ren 4, the Gate of Origin.

Located about 3 inches directly below your belly button is, yes, the Gate of Origin. If you have one finger on your belly button and one finger directly below your belly button on your pubic bone and you divide this distance into 5 equal parts, Ren 4 is exactly 3/5 that distance directly below your belly button.

What’s it do? So much!! Too much to write about here. The basics: It’s the front mu point of the small intestine and a meeting point of the chong, spleen, liver, and kidney channels. Huh? The small intestine is responsible for separating pure from impure- values from not-values. Being a meeting point of so many important energy - storing channels, it’s super nourishing and supportive in nature. The energy here is described as the basis of human life. This point helps increase energy and gain certainty with respect to who you are so that you may act with conviction. Massage this point in a clockwise direction to gain clarity on what it is you value. Massage it to supplement yourself with the goods that are already within you to act on your values. Try it!

The general theme I noticed in the readings for April was a lack of trust in the process.  From career goals, to health goals, to maintaining a romantic relationship- trusting the process tends to manifest the desired outcomes.

Sample dialogue:

Client: Will I be generating more income?
Me: Do you trust that you will?
Client: I mean, I’m doing all I can!  I’m posting flyers, making phone calls, sending emails, yada, yada, yada.
Me: Are you trusting the process?  While posting flyers, are you excited? Or are you worried about the outcome and fearful that all your effort is in vein?
Client: Well, I was excited the first few months, but then business started slowing down and now I’m wondering if I’m doing the right thing.

Trust.  Or lack thereof. That is April’s question.

It makes such a difference!!!!

So, when we plant seeds, we just trust they will grow.  We nourish them with sun and water (sometimes not even!) and they grow.  Naturally.  Seemingly without effort.  When the sprout starts to develop and peek it’s head above the soil, we’re not like, “Why aren’t you a huge tree, already?” or,  “Oh no!  I’m gonna loose you!” We trust it is well on its way to becoming a huge tree.  We stand by and watch it grow.

In April, I noticed a pattern of seed planting and then sprout sabotaging.  The sprout is growing, growing.  Maybe a couple of leaves by now.  Slowly getting taller, wider.  And then maybe there is a temporary halt in growth.  If we are already feeling emotionally exhausted from all the effort and emphasis we have invested in this plant, the halt can feel alarming.  From buying the pot, the perfect soil, getting some plant food, researching on the perfect plant for us, etc. . . . lots of energy has already gone into this plant, so by the time it is sprouting and growing (at it’s own natural pace), we may be exhausted and ready to call it quits!  Thus, when it requires the little water each week that it does, some of us tend to slip into, “Urgh, you again?  You’re needing water is just a reminder of how little you’re growing!  How are you not self-sufficient, yet?!  But, I’ve worked so hard!”  Resent comes up. Disappointment comes up.  We may stop watering it as frequently (I mean, what’s the point?).  We may over water it out of fear of not watering enough (My personal favorite!).  We may feed it inappropriate plant food  thinking, “This will do,” or “This is the plant food that worked for my friend.”  Whatever the case, I am noticing a pattern of seed planting and sprout sabotage, which equals no plant.  And then funny beliefs pop up that are not even rooted in reality.

Client:  I can’t grow plants.  Nothing I plant ever grows.  They all die.
Me: Actually, that plant didn’t die- you killed it.  And if you don’t trust, you will kill this one too.

Trust.  This is a process.  The old, “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” saying.

Let me offer you a tool to help you out.  A “trust gauge” that will display for you how much trust you have in the process.  It’s easy!  Just imagine a gauge from 0%-100%.  It can look like an odometer, a thermometer, a strait line with numbers on it, whatever works for you.  Mine looks like a rainbow, where at one end is 0% and at the other end is 100%.  Use it now for whatever process you have already started, whatever seeds you’ve already planted.  Imagine the plant or goal you have in mind and then imagine an image of your trust gauge.  Read your gauge, what does it say?  (Mine is reading 70% for a seed I planted in March. I coulda sworn it would have shown me 120%!)  If it’s not already at 100%, you can set it to 100%- just imagine the gauge moving until it reaches 100% and hold that image of your trust gauge at 100% for a moment.  Nice way to check in with yourself, cultivate awareness, and create a new habit of trust.

Trust leads to patience and reduces self-sabotage.  If trust is a difficult one for you, practice patience.  Fake it til you make it and soon enough you will trust.  I’m not one for sitting still.  Also, not one for thinking too much.  So when I say “practice patience,” I don’t mean sit and wait.  What works best for me is keeping busy, distracting myself, having creative outlets to channel all my nervous energy.  For me, creating plaques becomes really engaging, meditative, and time consuming.  This is how I practice patience.  What can you do to pass the time as your plant grows at it’s own natural pace?  You know, as to prevent you from killing this plant you so deserve.

“I trust in the process of life.”

As much as I love the level of enthusiasm and dedication to self, I’m concerned about what is fueling this motivation. Why the willingness to grow and change?

For many, I am noticing the feeling of “not-good-enough,” to put it nicely. Like, “Ok, what can I fix about myself so that I am ultimate perfection?” Thus, feelings of inadequacy and lack of self-acceptance to put it not-so-nicely. And do you know what happens when you “grow and change” from this place? You get your perfect body, your dream job, you manifest the love of your life, even! And what are you thinking? “What can I fix about myself so that I am ultimate perfection?” If you are picking at yourself right now, in all your current magnificence, what makes you so certain you’ll stop picking at yourself when you’ve mastered your next life lesson?

Yeah, yeah, there’s always room for growth. We all know this. But how many of us make room for acknowledgment? Yes! Acknowledgment! Let’s make room acknowledgment!

Imagine the difference in your experience with growth and change when coming from a place of unconditional self-love, self-acceptance and gratitude! The growth takes on a whole different course- it’s the difference between an empowering experience and one that keeps the underlying cyclic thoughts going.

The Webster Dictionary defines acknowledgment as, “the acceptance of the truth; the action of expressing or displaying gratitude or appreciation for something.” In this case, the truth of the matter is, well, YOU ROCK! The gratitude or appreciation would be for you being exactly who you are and exactly where you are right now!

I am inviting perfect, whole, and complete YOU to join me in a full day of acknowledgment. Pick your day now. Today? Tomorrow? Next Saturday? When can you commit to an entire day of acknowledgment? What is that, like 14-16 hours? Not a lot to ask. Acknowledge yourself for getting out of bed, brushing your teeth, eating breakfast, laughing, reading, checking the mail. Let’s take this day to acknowledge all our past as well. Where were you this time last year? How about 5 years ago? I’m guessing you’ve come a long way - congratulations! Acknowledge it! You may want to acknowledge yourself for the visible accomplishments -like your big move, new home, new watch - or for the invisible ones – such as a change in thoughts, attitude, or perception. What were your friendships like back in the day? What are they like now? How about your relationship with yourself? Yeah, that’s right, you’ve done a lot with yourself and with your life! Let’s recognize ourselves for how amazing we are and move forward from here!

Change is inevitable; it’s the only constant. Whether you like it, accept it, desire it or not, it is happening. No need to force or accelerate it. We are all huge fans of personal growth. The growth is a given. What’s not a given is that we take time to acknowledge growth when it happens. Spring is the season of growth. Let’s partner up with the forces of nature and grow from a place of self-love, self-acceptance and gratitude for all that we currently are.

Yeah, you’re already super-cool, you best recognize!

I view this quest for answers in the outside world as a reflection of a disconnection within.  When we have forgotten who we are, what we love, or what we value, all of everything appears to be an enticing problem solver.  We often use the outside world and new exciting experiences to distract ourselves from ourselves.  It is much easier to hold some external resource responsible for our inspiration.  It’s like admitting that, indeed, we really are boring and not so powerful at all. We can’t possibly know what’s best for us, or be responsible for our own inspiration. Who? Wittle ickle cutsikins, me? I have all the answers within? But this big, handsome man over here has been an expert in his field for over 50 years. He has all the answers!  Thus, I trust him to help me out with me.

Please, allow me to take this moment to remind you that you have known you your entire life.  Wouldn’t that make you the expert when it comes to you? When it comes to all your questions, it is you that holds all the answers! YOU!  YOU!  YOU!  Big and powerful YOU!

When we are connected with ourselves, we feel at peace, trusting, secure, confident, and inspired.  Look within.  Get connected. I’m not saying, not to do whatever it is you are interested in.  I’m asking why it is that you are interested in this?  Bring it back to you.  I do believe that what lies outside may accentuate what’s already within.  Acknowledge what’s already within.  Use this outside resource as a tool to help you focus or build the gifts that are already within you.  Please, don’t do yourself the disservice of expecting this outside source to place a gift within you, though.  We all come with built-in answers and inspiration!  Yup, it’s the new human model, did nobody tell you?

I’ll use myself as an example.  All I want is to fall in love!  Love, love, love, I wanna be in love!! When I ask myself “why?” I realize that to me love represents a lot of attention, lots of praise, lots of unconditional acceptance, laughter, connection, and so much more!  It is these things that I want.  It is these things that I value.  So why not use this insight and gift myself all of this?  So I do!  I make myself laugh all the time!  And how unfair would it be for my partner if I put all of these expectations on them?  Or for your ashram, your life coach, or whomever or whatever else, if we placed all responsibility for our own personal growth on this outside resource?

Looking within may be a different experience for each of us.  I enjoy asking myself questions and I love meditation.  Try asking yourself what you love, when are you the happiest, when do you feel most inspired, when do you feel most at peace, what are you drawn to and why?  Listen to yourself.  Know that this insight is only useful if put in action.  So, now you know you value meditation, adventure, romance, etc.  What are you going to do about it?

Yet, as humans we have a tendency to categorize, conceptualize, or understand life in terms of “good” or “bad.”  So, as a collective, we have associated light with “good” and dark with “bad.”  However, think about how much insight you have gained from all your darker moments. What’s so “bad” about that?  A lot of honesty, growth, and self-actualization comes from the darker moments.  The darkness can serve and benefit us.  It can be our best friend.

It is not the darkness in it of itself that tends to bring people down, it is the judgment of the darkness.    I see judgment as lack of acceptance.  When we are not accepting, we are opposing.  We are not flowing with life.  It is this, the judgment, lack of acceptance, opposition to life that causes suffering or stagnates us.
When I am in the reading space, it is so clear to me that everything is beautiful and perfect exactly as it is.  Seriously beautiful!  Everything is working out for everyone’s highest good.  The trick is seeing one’s current life situation as beneficial.  When we look for all the ways the darkness is serving us, all the ways in which we asked for it to teach us exactly what we are learning right now, we are moving forward.  We are shifting the energy.  We are in acceptance and in alignment with our paths.
Noticing how beneficial to our personal growth our current story is can be so powerful when done in the dark.  Think about what a powerful sensation the darkness is.  Overwhelming at times, no?  What a strong force!  Why not have this strength and power work for you?  Why not partner up with it?

Acceptance of the darkness transforms it into light.  Inevitably, the light will transform back into dark, then you’ll transform it back into light again, and so on and so forth.  It just is, so might as well accept it so you can work with it, rather than against yourself.

**The gratitude  journal I mention in earlier posts always helps me accept.**

What I’ve been seeing a lot this past month is people “getting ahead of themselves.” Meaning, energetically, decisions have been made, however, the mind, and body have yet to follow. During a reading, where my readee is energetically (whether already broken up with their partner, quit their job, moved to a new home, etc.) is so very clear to me. Like it’s already in the past! However, on account of all of our social programming, obligations, guilt, and all other factors that come into decision making, I’ll be in the middle of a session with someone who is asking me what to do with their current situation – like as though they haven’t yet made a decision. What is the best option? What would most benefit them? And here I am seeing what I’m seeing, thinking, “Well, the decision has already been made.”

When we invest time in outlets/resources/people, we tend to trust them. There is a sense of knowingness and security that comes with invested time. Time invested in friends, romantic partners, a home, a job, a hobby, anything. Time invested without rejection takes on a role of trust, security and comfort. Thus, when choosing between this comforting, secure option that you’ve known as a friend (be it in your best interest or not) and the opposition, which is new and unknown in shape and form, the decision may seem difficult and scary. Let us name this investment of time a habit.

So, we all know how easy habits are to form and how hard they are to break. We all know that they are just a cycle or a pattern repeating itself. Nothing new. Always predictable. As discussed, it is the predictability that makes them comforting and trustworthy. However, as we grow into our new selves, as we learn from our life experiences and integrate the wisdom, as we integrate knowledge from the outside world and from the world within, there are times when the old no longer serves us. So, it’s out with the old and in with the new.
This tends to be easier done on the energetic level then the mental and physical level. And this is when people come to me asking which decision to make.

I observe people playing out the same old habits until they can no longer “stomach” them. For whatever reason, it appears as though we all seem drawn to the old go-to, drawn to our comforting, secure, trustworthy habits when feeling especially fearful. Yet, when we can tolerate no more of being out of alignment with ourselves, when we continually choose the habit over new option, we tend to feel nauseous, ill, fatigued, disappointed, emotional, foggy, or simply yucky. I view strong emotions and physiological sensations as our way of communicating with ourselves. It is our intuition, our energy-self, communicating with the mind and body. When this sensation becomes overwhelming is when most of us come into alignment with ourselves. This is when we choose the new option mentally and physically, as it becomes nearly impossible not to. It is the transition that I heal when in readings where “the decision has already been made.”

An example of this is a client who came to me with regards to her relationship. She kept asking what to do. Should she break up or not? I replied, “The decision has already been made.” Yet, she kept asking the same question, as she was in search of another answer. Sure enough, after some time she ended her relationship. Because it had already been processed energetically, and in this case emotionally, after the break-up the client was great! She had been grieving the relationship while still (physically) in it. When it was over she looked lighter and brighter than ever! She moved into complete alignment with herself - mind, body, spirit.

Has this ever happened to you? I was initially exposed to acupuncture as a pre-dental student. I was fascinated by it! It was all I had ever fantasized about and more. My heart knew this was my path. Every cell in my body new this was my path. However, I kept ignoring the overwhelming feeling of bliss I experienced every time I even thought of acupuncture. I kept ignoring the nausea I felt every time I imagined myself a dentist. It took my mind 3 years to catch up with my spirit. Looking back, it’s laughable to me that I ever considered dentistry.

Gut feelings, in contrast with our so very brilliant minds, are seldom deceiving!

Can you imagine how powerful it is to declare all that you want when coming from this place of absolute trust, love, acceptance and gratitude? This is such a beautiful, pure, spirit-based place to come from. When I’m here, I’m completely unattached to all my desires, as I recognize how fantastic my life already is exactly as it is. Thus, this is the best time to declare exactly what it is we want.

Declare it, and allow the process of life do the rest. Writing is powerful because it really engages your mind, body and spirit. I write down what I desire as though I already own it. “I love my new bed. I love my new red shoes. I love my fantastic relationship. I love my new bear stickers!” I love the way I feel when writing these things down. For that moment in time, every cell in my body is acting as though I do own it. It’s magical! And when it appears in reality, it’s even more magical! Start small and work your way up. (. . . A new shirt to new electronics, to your dream vacation. . . ) I have created my ipod, digital camera, massage table, trip to Canada, my car, and so much more by doing this. Remember, your spirit knows no limits!

I will mention that the correlation I have noticed with the speed of the manifestations is my level of attachment to them. Again, I completely believe that I own these things as I write them down. I trust that it’s all working out in my best interest, so I don’t worry about it. I relinquish all control and attachment. Would this manifestation be something that I use to identify myself with, or would it just be another added bonus to my life?

When I approach the manifestation like an added bonus, everything seems so easy and effortless. When I am attached to the manifestaion and honestly believe I’d be a more worthy person, healer, woman, daughter, girlfriend, whatever because of it, it tends to take longer. . . usually it’ll appear in my life the second I give up! The second I realize I’m just fine without this one thing is when it suddenly falls into my lap. Therefore, it all goes back to appreciation! When I am appreciative of all I have I continue to create things to be grateful for. The saying goes, “you get what you give.” Give gratitude in order to receive more to be grateful for.

Why not both? A common example is, “Being spiritual requires my detachment from material possessions.” (Either I’m spiritual, or I’m materialistic) When I’m looking at your spirit, it is so clear to me that we can all have it all!

Besides being a mental, physical being, we are all spirits. As spirits, there is no judgment. The rules that exist when we are perceiving the world from our mind’s rationale don’t work for our spirits. Many times the sensation of limitation, lack, or inhibition comes when our mind, body, and spirit are not in alignment. You are a spirit and you are all-encompassing. One does not cancel the other out. It is, in fact, possible to be spiritual and inspired by the latest fashion trend. What’s wrong with that? Go on, have your cake and eat it too! Eat your cake with your vegetables, even!

For many of you, I saw how you had already created the life you want and how it is floating right outside your aura. However, due to this “mutually exclusive” belief, it is impossible to accept it all as being a part of your life. Thus, what happens is that your creations stay just outside of your reach. When you love an accept yourself, your beliefs, your values exactly as they are right now, all of your creations are within your reach. Yay!

If you have received an intuitive reading, then you have already declared that you recognize yourself as a spirit. Think of the options and possibilities available to you when your actions are coming from your spirit space, as opposed to your mental, emotional, or physical space. Endless!